How do you know if you’re in an abusive relationship with your government?

If your government tells you not to see your friends and family, you’re in an abusive relationship with your government.

If your government says you must ask for their permission before leaving the house, you’re in an abusive relationship with your government.

If your government tells you what you must wear when entering a building, any building, you’re in an abusive relationship with your government.

If your government says you cannot attend worship services at your local church, mosque or synagogue, you’re in an abusive relationship with your government.

These are just a few of the ways to determine if your government is being abusive to you, your liberty and your God-given rights and freedoms.

 

Imagine, if you will….

Imagine your best friend came to you and said, “Hey, here’s what my spouse is doing to me. What should I do?” and listed off any three of the fifteen items listed below, you would do everything in your power to extricate them from that abusive environment.

But what do you do when the government is the abuser?

How do you stop “them” from using the vast resources of government to heap emotional, psychological and physical abuse on you and your fellow Canadians?

Twelve-step programs tell us the first step is to admit there is a problem.

Right now, today, the majority of Canadians and their governments steadfastly refuse to admit there is a problem.

Public Health Officers, both federal and provincial, made some really bad decisions in February and March of 2019, and their arrogance and pride won’t allow them to say the one thing that could stop all this nonsense in a heartbeat:

“I made a mistake.”

These Public Health Officers, both federal and provincial, are now trapped into defending their bad early decisions and are now reinforcing them with even more damaging and restrictive decisions today.

This arrogance and inability to admit they are wrong is at the root of governments’ increasingly abusive bully tactics over COVID-19.

 

Help is Available

For guidance on how to identify an abusive relationship, the World Mental Health Institute (WMHI) offers the Abusive Relationships Infographic (download PDF) .

From the infographic:

Abusive relationships can arise anywhere – with partners, friends, families, workplaces or governments.

If you recognise these signs and are concerned you may be in an abusive relationship or acting in an abusive way, then don´t panic.

Take action, and seek out help from a professional.

Unfortunately, those who we would normally seek help from are the very ones abusing us today.

Your province’s Public Health Official is your abuser, not your saviour.

If merely reading that sentences infuriates you or makes your head want to explode, then I would ask you to please take a deep breath or two, then read through the 15 items below and honestly place a check mark beside each item that is true of your government’s response to COVID-19.

If you can place a check mark beside any three of these items, you are in an abusive relationship with your government.

 

You may be in an abusive relationship with your government if they…

 

1. Stop you seeing friends and family

Cutting you off from your emotional and psychological support systems is one of the first things an abuser does to his or her victim. It’s a flashing neon sign screaming “GET OUT NOW!”

Has your provincial government ordered you to stop visiting your friends and family members – those who do not live under the same roof as you?

 

2. Won’t let you go out without permission

Free people do not require permission slips from anyone to leave their homes.

Has your government or provincial health officer ordered you to stay home? Have they demanded you not travel unless it is “essential” without defining what essential travel means?

 

3. Tell you what to wear

In March 2019 face masks were useless and ineffective.

“…if you are sick, then put on a mask to prevent those droplets from flying… Putting a mask on an asymptomatic (healthy) person is not beneficial, obviously, if you’re not infected.”
– Dr. Teresa Tam

“The masks are important for someone who is infected to prevent them from infecting someone else. Right now in the United States people should not be wearing masks. There’s no reason to be walking around with a mask.”
– Dr. Anthony Fauci

Then Dr. Tam flipflopped on the need to wear a mask.

“Wearing a non-medical mask, even if you have no symptoms, is an additional measure that you can take to protect others around you in situations where physical distancing is difficult to maintain, such as in public transit or maybe in the grocery store.”
– Dr. Teresa Tam

Today face masks are mandatory and refusal to wear a mask (non-compliance with a public health order) is punished by hefty fines.

Are you willing to walk into your local Walmart without wearing a face mask? If not, why not?

 

4. Monitor your phone or emails

The Canadian government wants you to install their COVID-19 Contact Tracing App. Will we reach the nastiness of a police officer showing up at your door should you forget to charge your phone?  Don’t laugh. This is already happening in other jurisdictions.

Canada’s COVID app was released without any plan in place to determine if it was effective. Even the World Health Organization says “the effectiveness of digital proximity tracking to assist contact tracing remains unknown.”

Do you believe the government will use every method at their disposal to monitor you for “compliance” or do you believe your government will defend your right to privacy?

 

5. Control the finances, or won’t let you work

Control the bank account and you control the individual.

Since COVID first hit Canadian shores, both federal and provincial governments shut down hundreds of business sectors. To make up for the loss of millions of jobs overnight, the federal government provided $2,000/month to those who qualified.

Why work when the government will pay you to stay home?  That’s a problem faced by small businesses across Canada who cannot lure their former employees to get off the couch and return to work.

 

6. Control what you read, watch and say

Bullies and abusers love to control what you read, what you watch and what you say. It’s psychological warfare specifically designed to break down your defenses.

The censorship of free speech, thought and opinion is arguably one of the most heinous parts of the government’s COVID bully tactics.

Those tactics are endorsed and enforced by social media giants and media of all types.

Local newspapers are quick to publicly shame anyone who dares think for themselves.

Why do you think they all want to control what you read, watch, say and believe? Could it be that they don’t have your best interests at heart?

 

7. Monitor everything you do

If someone loves you they don’t need to control your every waking moment. If a government trusts its citizens, they don’t need to monitor your whereabouts every waking moment and it won’t ask your neighbour to sell you out.

COVID Snitch Lines are now ubiquitous across Canada. The Anti-Terrorist slogan “If you see something, say something” has now morphed into ratting out your neighbours if they dare have friends over for dinner.

Will you report your neighbours when someone drops over for a coffee or, heaven forbid, lunch and a playdate for their children?

If yes, why?

If no, why not?

 

8. Punish you for breaking the rules, but the rules keep changing!

“There is one rule for me, and another for thee.”

In Calgary, two female police officers came within milliseconds of Tasering a hockey player for refusing to get off an outdoor skating rink.

In Gatineau, half a dozen cops raided an “illegal” gathering of six people on New Years Eve after they were reported for violating Quebec’s lockdown by a nosy neighbour.

After telling Canadians they must stay home for the holidays, a couple dozen provincial and federal government ministers and senators left the country to spend Christmas somewhere warm.

And let’s not forget the Prime Minister’s threat to put you in jail if you fail to comply with senseless edicts.

“You need to take this seriously. Not following the rules could mean real consequences, including jail time.”

Transport Canada says, “Violating any instructions provided when you enter Canada is an offence under the Quarantine Act and could lead to up to six months in prison and/or $750,000 in fines.”

Are you beginning to get a clue as to why more and more mere citizens don’t believe you, dear government? Might it be your never-ending hypocrisy?

 

9. Tell you it is for your own good, and that they know better

If you’re old enough to remember a time when parents could physically reprimand their children when they misbehaved, you probably remember Dad saying the belt he was about to apply repeatedly to your bare butt was “for your own good.”

In similar fashion, heaping massive fines on you for “failure to comply with a public health order” is also for your own good.

It has nothing at all with being a bully, or with sending the signal to any other uppity ants out there that they’d best stay in line if they don’t want the same treatment.

 

10. Don’t allow you (or anyone) to question it

When COVID guidelines switch faster than Justin Trudeau changes his socks, why are these same governments so insistent that their arbitrary and nonsensical rules must be followed without question?

There are plenty of qualified medical professionals who disagree with the Standard COVID Consensus – destroying our mental health, our jobs and wide swaths of our economy is the only way to save us from COVID – yet those voices are routinely silenced and deplatformed.

See The Great Barrington Declaration for more details on that statement and the 40,000 medical professionals who signed it.

They can’t ALL be wrong, can they?

 

11. Tell you you’re crazy, and no one agrees with you

This classic is currently being employed with great effect by Canada’s High Priests and High Priestesses of COVID.

Lockdowns are necessary, they say.

You’re an idiot and a nutjob if you disagree, they insist.

“We in the World Health Organization do not advocate lockdowns as the primary means of control of this virus.”
– David Nabarro, W.H.O. Special Envoy on COVID-19

Canada is using lockdowns as our “primary means of control of this virus” – a direct contravention of Mr. Nabarro’s explicit recommendation.

Is it really me who is crazy for disagreeing with these measures?

Or is it possible our Public Health Officers don’t know what they’re doing and can’t admit they made a really big misake?

 

12. Call you names or shame you for being stupid or selfish

If government’s COVID regulations are so good for us, why must elected officials resort to name calling and public shaming?

These time-honoured traditions of the bully crowd are now employed by the new leaders of the public shame movement – government officials.

“If you don’t think Covid’s real right now you’re an idiot,” said Manitoba Premier Brian Pallister.

“The consequences of stupidity are going to be felt by the people who were there [in Steinbach] violating the rules,” said Manitoba Premier Brian Pallister. “Check your mailbox” for your tickets, he said.

“Those of us who do not want to obey the rules that the rest of us are following will have to pay the consequences,” said BC Premier John Horgan. “That means holding rule-breakers accountable. That means ensuring that the fines we levy are collected. Certainly everyone has a right to appeal, everyone has a right to due process, but once that due process has been finalized, if you do not pay the fines, we will send collections after you.”

“If you’re thinking of going to an anti-mask rally this weekend, how about instead send me an email, call me all the names you want, send me a letter, organize an online rally,” said Alberta Premier Jason Kenney.

 

13. Gaslight you, challenge your memory of events, make you doubt yourself

Time after time our public health officials flip-flop on their advice, and when confronted with their inconsistencies, attempt to convince us we don’t know what we’re talking about.

See Dr. Tam’s reversal on masks in Point #3.

 

14. Dismiss your opinions

If you don’t agree with a list of government-issued restrictions that contradict themselves every other line, you will be called names, your valid questions will be dismissed as quackery, and your opinions will be dismissed because you are “a denier” or some other equally abusive virtue-signalling epithet.

When confronted with this behaviour, just smile and nod, for the abuser has just outed him or herself before your very eyes.

Ask them why a simple discussion is not permitted.

Wait for them to foam at the mouth when you do.

 

15. Play the victim. If things go wrong, it’s all your fault

“We must all do our part.”

“If you don’t wear a mask, if you don’t obey the COVID restrictions, you will be responsible for people dying.”

“Stop being irresponsible and selfish.”

Blame. Obfuscate. Make counter-accusations.

These are time-honoured traditions of abusive jerks everywhere.

 

How do You Break the Cycle and Reclaim Your Life?

This is the tricky part because of the egos, pride and arrogance at play in those who make the rules.

First, make a commitment to yourself that you will not allow anyone, not friends, not neighbours, not police or government agents, to bully, shame or psychologically abuse you or your family.

Stand up to the bullies politely but firmly. Ask questions, but be aware that merely asking a question will be interpreted by your Statist Thug abusers as “non-compliance.”

Your only option may be to challenge the abusers in court at a later date, as is the case of the young hockey player in Calgary I mentioned above.

Write or call your provincial MLA/MPP/MNA and ask:

• Why are we being forced to live in lockdown?
• Why must healthy people wear face masks and quarantine?
• Why is the provincial government not allowing the 97% of your province’s residents who are unaffected by COVID-19 to continue on with their lives while they, the provincial government, focuses on protecting the 3% of our population that are most susceptible to this virus?
• Why are you, my elected provincial representative, refusing to stand up for my Charter rights while the provincial government destroys my life and my livelihood?

Then write or call your federal Member of Parliament and ask:

• Why are we being forced to live in lockdown?
• Why must healthy people wear face masks and quarantine?
• Why is the federal government not allowing the 97% of our country’s citizens who are unaffected by COVID-19 to continue on with their lives while they, the federal government, focuses on protecting the 3% of our population that are most susceptible to this virus?
• Why are you, my Member of Parliament, refusing to stand up for my Charter rights while my province and the federal government destroy my life and my livelihood?

I do not, of course, suggest you hold your breath while waiting for a reasonable and well-thought-out response from any of these folks.

But if we mere citizens don’t keep asking these questions and demand sensible answers for them all, the abusiveness we’re witnessing today will pale in comparison to what we’ll witness a month from now; two months from now; a year from now.

“If you will not fight for right when you can easily win without blood shed; if you will not fight when your victory is sure and not too costly, you may come to the moment when you will have to fight with all the odds against you and only a precarious chance of survival. There may even be a worse case. You may have to fight when there is no hope of victory, because it is better to perish than to live as slaves.”
— Winston S. Churchill

 

I prefer to take a stand today, right now, when the battle is still relatively easy to win because, if we wait too much longer, we will arrive at that point Winston Churchill warned us about before we know it:

“You may have to fight when there is no hope of victory, because it is better to perish than to live as slaves.”